If you give a mouse a divorce...
she's going to make some sacrifices to go with it.
You never get married thinking you’re going to get divorced.
It’s humbling when you realize you’re barreling down the path to separation and there are no brakes to stop you from crashing. All you can do is take a deep breath and brace for impact, knowing your whole life is about to blow up.
My ex and I met the first day of high school, started seriously dating freshman year of college, got engaged the summer I graduated, married a year later, and found out I was pregnant six months after that. I like checking boxes, and that’s what we did together. Husband? Done. Family? Also done. People thought I had my shit together, and I loved it. I thought I had my shit together too.
I’ve come to realize that I actually didn’t—not really. And I don’t right now either. I question myself daily, my burnout is compromising my friendships, and my finances are frustratingly out of whack. I’ve been dropped as easily as I was once welcomed and I’m the last to know about big news. Every weekend, I have to give up my daughter after five days of playing the bad cop. None of this was part of the plan.
Still, there’s hope. For each thing I’ve sacrificed, I’ve made space for something new. Since moving in November, I’ve been able to see my extended family more and create a home for Annabelle’s friends to gather. I still have burdens, but they’re different and lighter. I can see possibilities that once felt out of reach or not meant to be.
So I’m not making a new plan just yet. I’m prioritizing my healing, following my joy, and giving myself grace when those both feel impossible. Life is fluid, and nothing, including this, is permanent. I’m choosing gratitude. And I’m going to be just fine.
Let’s talk shop.
The Beaufort Bonnet Company and Weezie just released a darling collaboration. I’m not sure why there are only two products, or why they picked the ones they did, but whatevs. Hopefully it sells well enough to justify a part two!
Did anyone else miss the memo on the Gilmore Girls x Stoney Clover Lane collection? A lot of stuff is sold out, but I do like the Chilton plaid pieces that are still available (the pattern is actually called The Puffs, which is so fun).
Buru partnered with Jaimie Dewberry (of one of my favorite hotels, The Dewberry in Charleston) a while back and I still can’t stop thinking about this dress.
Speaking of favorite hotels: Gray Malin recently came out with a Georgia coast collection and this photo reminds me so much of my horseback ride on/at Sea Island. I miss it!
One more collab PSA: Fanm Mon x Liz Adams! This is my ideal summer dress—breezy, playful, and not mind bogglingly expensive.